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從我們決定幫助昊昊自己入睡開始我的心一直慌慌的
好怕他以為媽媽不愛他
也怕他的哭聲讓我放棄
更害怕愛昊昊的爸爸會心碎...
因為希望昊昊學習self-smooth
我們在他還清醒的時候
就把他放在他自己的小床上
用最最溫柔的聲音跟他道過晚安,握握他的小手手
再親親他的小臉頰,我們便離開他的房間
前面兩天
當我們一關上房門就聽見他放聲大哭
記得書上及朋友的建議
我們該去做點別的事等到15分鐘後再來看他
但是腳底彷彿生了根,站在他門外不能動彈
我跟Tommy只好緊緊擁抱
似乎只有靠著對方,才有堅持的勇氣
但不受控制的,眼淚還是簌簌的流下來
前面幾天,昊昊總要哭上20-30分鐘才能睡著
但是一個禮拜後
他漸漸適應了睡眠的routine
幾分鐘之內便能自己入睡
就算是不小心醒來
也可以再睡著
我所擔心的童年陰影的問題似乎也不存在
因為他的睡眠品質提高了
每天早上總是好開心的醒來
而我因為能夠充分的休息
在白天與他的互動中也能夠更全心全意
我最大的煩惱總算是解決了!!
I am very proud of Hao-Hao!!
希望他能記得他生命中第一個課題
"能夠Self-smooth是高EQ最重要的基礎"...
在他成長的路上會有更多的關卡
我不能為他免除growing pain
但是我會牽著他的手
一步一步的陪他往前走!!
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good job!!
Hi Zoe,
Happy Chinese New Year!! Thank you for sharing your blog with me, and I am so touched as I read through your struggles and joy. I am sooooo proud of you!! My sister has given birth to a 2nd son last month and my parents just left Houston after staying with her for "the month". Now she is struggling with her baby and her toddler as well. I must encourage her to read your blog if you don't mind! Miss you very much and I hope that I can come back to NY to visit you and Hao Hao this summer! ~Belinda =)
我是小盼!妳好棒!我會把你和昊昊的經驗mail 給需要幫助的媽媽!
Dear Zoe,
I am so so happy for you! Thank you so much for sharing this success! Thank you the most for sharing your struggle and feelings. I can totally relate to you. I will soon be facing this dilemma and you will be getting my calls a lot!! :)
BTW, do you mind I link your blog on my blog?
Pei
謝謝妳們給我的鼓勵和支持!!!
我也很願意把我的經驗與struggles和所有的媽媽們分享!!
其實我一直以來都用封閉(shout down)和 否認來面對挫折...也總要在事過境遷後,才能用第三者的心態描述經過,但是這一次,我卻希望自己能夠有所改變,希望自己能夠藉由妳的支持和提醒,停止在黑暗中摸索...
Dear Zoe,
I am glad to know that you also starts to wrote blog. I feel this is a self therapy process as well as recording everything and every emotions related to myself and little rice. can i add ur blog into mine so more people can share about ur experiences?
Suzie
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Dear Suzie,
It is so great to see you in my blog. Like I said in the e-mail, your blog gave me a lot of inspiration. I couldn't agree with you more that writing things down is very like self-therapy. I felt much more clear and calm afterwards.
Sure, you can add my blog in yours so I can meet more moms : )
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