("Oh,No!!!" was my first impression of the day care center I visited yesterday.It was a tiny place (no big than my living room) on the first floor in a private house.
The place was divided into two classrooms. One is for older kids and the other room is for babies around Hao-Hao's age. There were 12 of them in that tiny place.
I was shocked when seeing babies playing on the plastic mat which has finger prints and dirt on it. All the toys they play with were three little sorry cars. The teacher told me that it is safe for Hao-Hao to be there since the place is small so he has no place to run...
I was wondering if the day care center is what I am looking for or I should still hire a nanny to help me out?? What will be the best for Hao-Hao??? I am still searching for the right answer....)
"Oh, NO!!!" 是我對昨天參觀的托兒所的第一印象
它在一個Private House的一樓
差不多是跟我家客廳一般大小的空間裡
用木板隔了兩個房間, 再加上小小的廁所和廚房
居然可以容納下12個從幾個月大到3歲的小小孩
托兒所的負責人標榜著擁有10年以上的教育經驗
兩位老師更是充滿愛心和耐心
而孩子們的爸媽更多是住在長島,有著高薪工作的知識份子
我先是看著那幾個2-3歲的孩子 幾乎是手肘碰手肘的擠在一起 圍坐在一張小桌子旁
老師發了一人一隻色筆 要求他們在coloring paper上塗顏色
有的小朋友被老師罵 因為他把顏色塗出去框框外頭
也有的小朋友因為在畫別的動物而被老師沒收了畫筆
我的心中充滿了震驚和疑問
難道這就是the best place I can find for Hao-Hao??
接下來我們進入了另一個小房間
地上鋪的軟墊上佈滿了手印和油污
3個和昊昊差不多大的baby在地上爬來爬去 臉上還流著鼻涕和口水
他們面前的玩具只是幾部年代久遠的小汽車
老師還強調因為空間小 孩子才不會亂跑 所以很安全 要我可以放心...
當時我真想大聲尖叫...
也對昊昊充滿了愧疚... 難道這就是the best I can offer for Hao-Hao??
昨天一整天我的心理都好難受...
也一直在想究竟該怎麼辦
七月就該上班的我 該如何安排昊昊...
我又有哪些options呢???
之前一直都希望為昊昊和自己找個可靠的褓母兼管家
要她到我家來 依照我訂的活動與時間表做事
因為我要全職的工作 所以也想要求她幫我做家事 洗衣,煮飯,擦地板... 最好等我和Tommy到家時, 桌上已放滿熱騰騰的飯菜,晚餐後我們更能好好陪昊昊玩,不用擔心洗碗的問題
我會要求褓母住在我家 那麼她就沒有理由遲到或請假
到了週末她放假回家 我們也能夠擁有自己的隱私權...
我的如意算盤打的好好的 也跟之前幫我作月子的褓母約定好6月底就回來上班 甚至連價錢都談好了
所以當身邊好友都在煩惱褓母的問題時,我還十分慶幸,心想,好險我已經作好了安排,一點也不用擔心！！
只可惜 人算不如天算 那個褓母因為私人的理由,已經確定不可能來幫忙我了.....
在一切都歸零的情況下 我開始思考究竟該怎麼辦.... 什麼會對昊昊最好呢??
如果昊昊會說話,他又會有什麼意見呢.....
5 則留言:
Day care and private nanny have different advantages. My recommendation is, if possible, a nanny for an young infant like Hao. Major reason is that, day care center is a germ central. Babies get sick very often tossing germs to each other. So, parents become deprived of sleep attending their sick babies at nights. Also, young infants need more individual attention, simply because they are more needy emotionally and physically. Whatsoever, I had such a difficulty searching for a day care that admits infants under 2 in Queens! You're such a good mother preparing everything months in advance! My prayer is with Hao to find the best way to be cared.
-YJ-
DEAR ZOE
我完全可以體會你看到day care的感受 小米兩個月的時候 我參觀了一個day care 感覺上好像比你去參觀的好些 不過即使如此 我跟軒看了之後都還是覺得捨不得也擔憂小米的發展 我想 小米在兩歲之前 除非有很好的day care 我還是會以保母為主來考量
另外在小米逐漸開始吃副食品之後 我也覺得保母的好處是她可以讓小米在白天吃比較新鮮的食物 很難想像孩子在day care輪流吃baby food罐頭的情景 孩子也在吃中玩吃中學習 這些機會保母應該可以帶領著她
只是小米個性外向 我覺得她在day care應該會發展的不錯 也會開心 或許如果她跟著保母 就安排一些她可以去上的課程 有時候讓保母也帶著她去 而我則可以用其他時間帶她去跟小朋友玩
還有一個月回到美國 等小米適應一些 我就要開始留意照顧她的人了 只想告訴你 我也是成天都想的很不安 也在擔心著 更擔心著九十個月持續認人的小米 光是保母就需要好一段時間適應
有我的支持 希望你也加油 剩下的 就交給上天 如果孩子需要我們多些時間照顧他們 上天會讓我們知道 如果我們需要去工作 相信孩子的彈性跟能力絕對可以適應他們所需要的照顧
ALSO, i think even Hau Hau does not speak yet, he will let you know what will be the best for him in the next two months. I think a 6 month old baby already can show their perference and personality. Just be patient and also believe that you know what is the best for him.
SUZIE
這daycare聽起來真的是滿恐怖的耶...我之前輕鬆的想送小mi去daycare應該沒什麼大不了的...看來,真的開始去好好的看一下...如果找不到合適的,就要好好的想想辦法了...嗯...我們這幾個媽媽輪流當保姆怎麼樣? 每個禮拜,大家排不同天休息....
Dear Yoonjin,
Thank you for sharing your opinions and experience. I am just an anxious person who likes to plan things ahead. :)
I agree with you that it is so difficult to find a decent day care center which takes kids under 2. With our work schedule and concerns for their safety/health, it is more convenient for us to have a nanny coming to our home. But, I really don't feel comfortable having someone I don't know to work for me and I don't believe the nanny can be 100% attending and emotionally available to Hao.... Anyway, hope I will have your luck to find the solution and thank you for your prayer.
To Suzie,
謝謝妳的分享和了解!!!!
我想幫孩子們尋找適合的保母或是day care
該是母親們最煩惱的心事了
就像妳說的 每個孩子的個性需求和人格特質都不同
是不能期望只用一種方法來解決全部的問題的
我也應該要相信昊昊的適應能力 and hope for the best!!
By the way, 我這個禮拜會再去參觀兩家托兒所 到時候會再與妳分享
To Pei,
I 100% agree with you suggestion!!! We should open our own day care center and take turn to take care of our kids!!! Actually, it might be my next career.... Let's plan it out!! I am serious!!!
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